Do you agree with the famous saying 'All is fair in love and war'?
The need to become someone or something only arises when you are externally driven. When you associate with the world you are stuck with the six vices namely: Lust, Anger, Greed, Pride, Jealousy, and Attachment. Devoid of ignorance is the state of Awareness. Lust is at the root of all these vices, it hijacks your hormones as early as when we attain your teens and you falsely label “Lust” as “Love”.
In this state, you are incapable of analysis yet when someone studies the mundane mind unconsciously function within an individual, he observes that every activity is performed after having thought about it and where thought forms the basis of any activity, it is ignorance. This is because thought first occurs and then comes action as a follow-up. Any system that follows such a pattern is fundamentally a dead system. The other fueling agents are the six vices, which rudimentarily prosper in the thought world. In other words, every material act is consciously instigated by one of the six vices but is unconsciously perceived by the individual as just harmless thought.
Let us understand this with respect to ‘becoming better’.
When we try to become better, there are many thoughts in relation to it. Due to the constant chattering of the mind, one is compelled to act on them. This action leads one to create a false identity. ‘When we become’, it means adopting something from the external plane and which is not our original self. It is apart from ourselves, usually picked up from our environment or our own dead programming that functions within us even during sleep.
The false identity which is accepted by the world now becomes an extension of your ‘self’, thereby increasing the ‘volume of ignorance’. Unconsciously, one continues this cycle of layering oneself with fancied identities. Its propeller is our Attachment. We are immensely attached to our existence and identity. Our unconscious feelings of recognition, name, fame, etc tempt our mind which in turn is reflected through our activities. Due to strong identification with the mind, one feels insecure if one does not abide by it. Thus, attachment to our existence leads us to commit repeated ignorant activities.
‘When all emotions evaporate’, this phrase refers to a state of vacuum in the heart. It has no possession or preference. No prevalent emotion drives your life. For Example Today, love is driven by lust and possessiveness is driven by Greed. Precisely, vices form the foundation of one’s existence. But, when the heart is not blocked with the dirt of the mind, when there is a place for the stream of purity to flow within, then only can one experience love. Other than this state all so-called love is a farce. It is selfish.
Nothing other than a state of emptiness is love. Because emptiness is synonymous to love. Love is nothing other than selflessness and sacrifice. Sacrifice means considering not oneself but the other. This love is not blind. It does not accept negative characteristics or untruth in the other. Reprimanding the other for siding untruth is love. Because love is caring for the other in the truest form. True love is considering the spiritual well being of another individual. Material love does not follow any of these attributes of love and hence is not love at all.
In the name of knowledge what perpetrates in the world is just a huge mass of ignorant mind-block. Love is when thought sublimates and the heart is left spotlessly clean. In such a state there is no thought that is restrictive or a thought that gives you a separate name or existence. In love, there is no other. In love there is no “mine” or “your”. There is not even “others”. Love is all inclusive and does not need knowledge to help spread fragrance.