What is an Ideal Family Relationship?


Dominating – A Common Family Problem

The life process is in one’s hands.

However, one blames ever so many things for the lack of peace and happiness in one’s life.

People blame other people, situations, one’s destiny and so many things for their failures, in both family life and at work.

One thing that people discount in their analysis of life is their own presence and indulgence in life.

Other than one’s own self, the blame is on the rest of the world.

This is perhaps the most startling observation that one can make about one’s own life and also the life of others.

We see that certain people try to “take charge” of one’s life in all respects.

They control their family members which include their own parents, spouse, and children.

They do not allow anyone to be part of the decision-making process, whatsoever.

If one were to observe one’s surroundings carefully, this is a common sight.

I have seen the man of the house, interfere with things like, what the family should eat or not eat.

The male of the family is left to decide what should be cooked for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

In some households, there are dominating females!

Also, he/she decides what his/her spouse shall wear and what games the children should play.

The interference is so interceptive and domineering that one would feel that even an animal has more freedom

Learn to give Others Space

People try to dominate in every aspect of life and yet they remain sulking with growing dissatisfaction.

Deciding what the wife should wear should not be to dominate.

If she is decently dressed then there remains nothing else for the man of the house to comment.

At least basic things like the choice of dress and menu for lunch can be left on the wife to decide.

Isn’t it?

Parents should keep an eye on their children’s activities.

The games children like to play, the movies they watch, the friends they interact with, the choice of dress, etc should not be detrimental for their overall character.

Parents should try and inculcate values to keep children grounded.

This shall help them make the right choices in life.

Additionally, they must keep their children away from all invasive, and toxic elements.

Disadvantages of Interfering too Much

Now, the more people develop an interfering mindset, the more they remain dissatisfied.

As a result, they become complaining by nature.

Their stress levels mount and they find themselves in the midst of relentless action and turmoil.

A mere observation of the society sprawling around us is enough to reveal a telling Truth.

The obvious learning from these observations of life is that the more one interferes with the natural flow of the life process, the more he/she shall suffer.

The more one tries to gain control over others and one’s own self, the more he shall lose control.

Instead of gaining control over things that he would have naturally gained control of, he ends up losing control in all aspects of life.

As a result, he subsequently disconnects from his family members on the physical, mental, and emotional plane as there remains no communion in the family.

If the dominating personality carries forward for a long span, one shall lose health and mental well-being.

This shall become the prime cause of a broken family.

Such a personality directly injures the fabric of the family.

Children shall detest such parents and one’s spouse will consciously avoid striking any conversation.

Thus, he shall always remain disturbed, distressed, and dissipated.

Then what is the alternative?

The best way to gain control is to surrender all control.

The more one relaxes and stops interfering with other lives, the more shall the mind and body relax and experience rejuvenation.

This is the mantra to “gain” control.

Also, one needs to understand that a person who allows life to flourish without trying to interfere with it, is a man of matured intelligence.

When bodily energies harmonize inwards rather than expending it on external activities, the more shall life-energies co-operate with you.

If an individual gives the necessary freedom to one’s family and allows them to flourish in line with their interests, (provided they are not toxic) there shall be real peace and happiness in that family.

The head of a family should only serve the family in his best capacity.

One should realize that the more one relinquishes the so-called rights and discharges only duty, the family shall automatically flourish.

One needs to be supportive and loving to everyone in the family.

Spiritual Values and Lifestyle have a Positive impact on the Mind.

There should be encouragement and inspiration in the family rather than domination and disparagement.

Only when one renounces one’s selfish and self-centered attitude, can one dispose of the sense of ownership and domination.

This feeling that “one knows” what is good for the family, only when renounced, can there be amalgamation and synergy within the family.

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