Though culture always intends to see society prosper, the evil intentions of society have tarnished the role of culture in our lives.
Influence of Culture on us
Usually, cultures, traditions, ancestral practices, nationwide practices based on religion, or even family-based practices define the way we live our modern lives.
Modernity amalgamates with these older ways of living.
Then, it forms the general unwritten rules that dominate our lives.
Cultures and traditions have a positive impact and are talked about highly amongst intellectual circles.
Some of the practices also form the way politics works in a nation.
Religion and caste politics is somehow based on the sectarian aspects of culture alone.
Culture and tradition are spoken of highly in every nation.
But, it can never be denied that culture has usually misdirected people and diminished humanity in many ways.
Role of Culture in Families
We shall examine culture at a very family and personal level.
It is this very poison of culture that roles up at the sect level, district level, state level, and national level.
It goes to define corruption and misuse of power in many ways.
Let us dive directly into the waters of such cultures.
Countries like India have a very huge population that defines almost 20-25% of the entire world consumer market.
The greatest dent that is created in such nations is through weapons manufactured out of culture and tradition.
We live in a hypocritical world.
You may agree with me if you intend to see the real faces hiding behind these masks.
For example, in a Joint-family system, prevalent in many towns and villages in India, people use culture and traditions to hide their selfishness and greed.
They promote culture, although they don’t resonate with such ideas.
Just like advertisers promote their products through cultural-based or festival-based ads, although they are not directly connected with these ideas.
Through direct means of promoting culture, people satisfy their greed and agenda.
People get influenced by such advertisements and invest in the product.
Thus, common folks get trapped, while the agencies earn their profits.
In a family, where there are fathers, uncles, nephews, nieces, and grandparents living together, each older member of the family encourages the younger ones in the family to respect them.
They demand respect, as a matter of culture and tradition.
This gets ridiculous most times.
When Customs become Toxic?
In one line: Customs become toxic when they are employed for selfish purposes, and bear evil intentions.
Traditions are never toxic directly. But, when through culture people satisfy their hidden motives, it does become toxic.
Though culture is not directly involved, it does get used as a medium of destruction
For Example, the tradition of respecting elders is a good custom. Isn’t it.
Many say: “Why should it ever be bad? Of course, it is good.
But what if…
a drunkard father spends his money on friends and on cheap sources of entertainment?
When such a father returns home, he puts on a sober face, although drunk.
The mother orders the children to serve their father.
In such a case, customs need to be discarded.
They become toxic, as the thought, word, and deed are misaligned.
Culture can only bear fruits if spontaneously done with faith.
Otherwise, it only causes disharmony in most families.
Hypocrisy in Traditions must be Rejected
People learn about you not by what you say but by what you do.
This is the motto of life.
If a grandfather of the household plays cards with the good for nothing neighbors, while the grandmother smokes along with other old women of the colony, they set a wrong example for the younger members of the family.
But, they continue with their bad habits.
In spite of that, they narrate the teachings from Ramayana and the Gita to their grandchildren.
However, they misconstrue the stories as they have consumed them in the most distorted manner from their own undeserving parents.
Then whatever they say to convince others about their religiosity, or traditional beliefs, they have no relevance.
To talk about religious, cultural, or traditional beliefs it is necessary that you follow them thoroughly.
Because his actions contradict his words.
Is it worth respecting such dubious people of the family and society is a personal choice.
But, hear what the soul says, as they are the words of wisdom.
This is culture or rather this is the way culture proliferates in the modern world.
Joint Family Tradition
There are unworthy uncles of households, who spend their father’s money on certain businesses.
They invest without care, without considering whether or not the business is profitable.
They spend money on useless pursuits.
Many of them manipulate credit card amounts and become huge debtors.
Now children, learn some lessons from their parents and are good enough to support their unworthy parents.
These children, being rich now, demand respect out of their not-so-rich cousins.
They have made their unworthy parents mascots for drawing respect from the rest of the community or their so-called extended families.
Culture Does not mean Respecting Unworthy People
Why does he and his rich children demand the respect you may ask?
Oh, you do not know of the cultures and traditions of this particular country
You need to go and study history to understand how the children of yore served the elders of the family.
Today, the level of hypocrisy is such that they do not deserve but yet they desire, it’s their birth-right because you are part of the “rich” heritage of a so-called nation.
How can such a nation, at ground zero, ever prosper?
What values do parents have?
Do these so-called “guardians”, know anything about heritage or culture?
One must understand that true culture is born out of the spirit.
It cannot belong to the “past”.
True culture is the flowering of the spirit.
It has nothing to do with ancestors or traditions.
Tradition and ancestry are born out of the graves of unworthy people of the world who have followed practices, which never meant anything to them.
The older practices of culture have been transferred from generation to generation sans spirit.
Hence, we have been unnecessarily holding on to the coffins of decayed “culture”, which is supposed to be dumped into the fathomless sea of nescience.
If one is in need of a culture of some authenticity, one needs to know the art of connecting with the spirit.
Only a heart that has connected with the spirit can live by true culture and nurture it.
What is required of elders is to first accept a humble position of “I do not know“.
Only then can new possibilities be explored.
The moment one becomes empty and unassuming, can one begin one’s journey into the field of the spirit.
Then newer dimensions of true culture, reveal itself
Once, one is connected to the spirit, the job of the elders is to show that path to their wards.
Only if such a system emerges can culture remain intact, fresh, even if a millennium passes by.
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